We are all on vacation and we all have the right to rest and relax. But we continue to be parents, even when we are on vacation from office work. The advice of the psychologist and psychotherapist Paola Scalari to manage children on vacation. And to enjoy all the well-deserved relaxation!
Starting with the idea of wanting to enjoy the days we will spend together, having the awareness that children never “go on vacation”, taking into account that they will want to stay even more with us (rightly), choosing suitable destinations for them, but also think about everyone’s needs. Here are the advice of the psychologist and psychotherapist Paola Scalari for managing children on vacation and go home refreshed and less stressed.
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1. Starting with the idea of wanting to enjoy the days we will spend together
If we leave with the intention of ditching them all day left and right or forcing them to keep up with our plans, our children will put a spoke in the wheel in every way, claiming our attention.
If, on the other hand, we have a clear intention of wanting to enjoy the days with them, fatigue will take a back seat and it will be a wonderful holiday!
2. You never go on holiday with your children
It’s a vacation from the office, of course, but let’s keep in mind that, when you have children, there can be no vacation from the educational commitment, care and containment that the little ones require, even during our – longed for and deserved – holidays .
Whether we are going to an all-inclusive village or renting a house, in any case we will have to take care of them when they have to wash or put on the sun, when they get on the games, dive into the pool, run around the corridors of the hotel, they eat at a restaurant or… they get a fever!
Only starting from this premise will we be able to experience a truly joyful holiday with our children without unnecessarily stressing ourselves
3. Think of a tailor-made holiday for them
That is to make sustainable programs for those parents and their children: it is useless to organize the tour of Europe in 7 days and then claim that our children are behind our tour de force.
Better to think of something manageable, for example to go with grandparents or with other couples of friends with children, in order to alternate in managing the children, or choose a structure that provides entertainment for children or other family friendly services that come to us. help for a few hours a day.
4. Recognize that they will want to be with us more
After having seen us with a dropper all year, the children will not seem real to have mum and dad next to them 24 hours a day. And they will certainly want to take advantage of it, filling us with requests and things to do together that could lead to a surplus of work, as tiring as a working day!
Especially considering that the holiday is full of places and occasions of great charm for children, such as carousels, inflatables, ice creams and toys, which could make our little ones even more capricious.
5. Don’t stress him out with pretending he gets up early
It is true that pediatricians and dermatologists recommend that we take them to the beach in the early hours of the morning, but after a school year of waking up at dawn, in the summer the child has the right to stay in bed a little longer, especially if the previous evening we are late.
This does not mean letting him laze until noon, but establishing a time that is considered fair for everyone, without expecting to split the minute.
Another trick: the earliest parent goes to the beach early, the laziest one stays at home / hotel with the child. Our priority should not be to arrive at the sea at 8, but to get there calmly, being comfortable with the family.
6. Don’t schedule every minute of the day
By now we have it in our blood: city life has accustomed us to always being under the pressure of timing and, once on vacation, we are almost “afraid of losing the compass” if we do not plan everything in detail and if we stay for a while. lapse of time without doing anything.
So we fill the day with boat trips, fitness classes, visits to museums or a thousand other attractions in which the leisure industry envelops us.
We do not let ourselves be seduced by everything, for fear of not being good vacationers if we miss one or if we do not tell our colleagues about all our adventures upon returning. Vacation, in the etymological sense of the term, means a period in which you are ’empty’: we do not struggle to fill all these gaps!
7. Don’t expect him to do his homework every day
Indeed, if you go on vacation with your family for only a few weeks, no homework! There will be time when we return to the city or on rainy days. Instead, let’s go to the bookshop before departure and together choose 2-3 booklets suitable for their age, to read in moments of relaxation. And we also read: our example teaches that reading is beautiful, exciting and… very educational!