THE TASKS: A LITTLE A DAY, BUT NOT ON HOLIDAY. It is the nightmare that accompanies us throughout the summer. The ideal would be to get them out of the way immediately after school ends so that you don’t think about them anymore. But there are few virtuosos who do it. We then establish a timetable together with the child, helping him to plan his activity (but without doing his homework for him!). If he complains that there are too many, let’s tell him we’re sorry, that if we were the teachers we would have given him less, so he feels understood in his discomfort: those who are there, however, must be done. But when mom and dad are on vacation, whether they go out or stay at home, no homework: the holiday must be relaxation and carefree for everyone.
AT THE SUMMER CENTER: ONLY IF NECESSARY. Since school ends, many children have been sent to summer camps. For heaven’s sake, sometimes you can’t do without it, but keep in mind that the various activities that are organized, however playful, require a continuous commitment, for the body but also for the brain. If possible, we limit the time of stay, allow the child more relaxation on the weekend or alternate the summer center with other solutions, such as a beach house with grandparents.
NO WAKE UP ON HOLIDAY! If there are no precise programs, during the holidays it would be nice if children could wake up according to their biorhythms, have breakfast calmly, wash and dress at their own pace, which are physiologically slower than us adults. He will be more likely to wake up early when needed.
NO TO BABY CLUB H24! Let’s face it, it is the hidden dream of many parents to spend their holidays in a holiday resort where the children go to the baby club almost all day while mum and dad are dedicated to something else. The desire to relax is legitimate, but on vacation you need to be a little more available with children, who need to share experiences and emotions with their parents, to feel wanted and accepted, otherwise they feel like a package unloaded at the first opportunity. Let’s think about it: how would we feel if we went to the beach with a friend who, as soon as you arrive, gives up and does everything but stay with us?
AT THE RESTAURANT, ALSO TALK TO HIM! How many times do you see adults in the restaurant chatting only to each other about things “when they grow up” and children yawning or complaining, except playing with the iPad or various games brought from home or being entrusted to the local babysitter. There may be a little bit of it, but children also want to be with you, intervene in your speeches and feel part of the family. Talk to him from time to time about things that interest him too!
GOOD WAYS DO NOT GO ON HOLIDAY. On vacation, parents tend to be more permissive and tolerant with their children, precisely in order not to create conflicts and tensions. Some exceptions can be made, but education and respect for good manners cannot go on vacation: you do not run in the corridors of the hotels, you do not scream at the restaurant, you do not raise the sand to the neighbors with an umbrella. Don’t be afraid to say no, just communicate firmly what you can and can’t do, without dwelling on too many sermons: you are the pilots of the plane!
MOTHER I’M TIRED! You go to the tourist village or to the sea and you see him tired and whiny. But how is it possible that he complains of being tired even on vacation? Unless he’s back from a dozen sports courses, he’s probably bored. Suggest that they play a game together: all of a sudden the tiredness will disappear as if by magic!
EVERYONE LEAVES SO MUCH THAT YOU ARE BORED. A little boredom, however, is good for you every now and then. Today’s children are not used to being bored, because they always have something to do and if they don’t have it we hurry to find it for them. Instead boredom is an opportunity from which we must not take away our children, because it gives them the opportunity to rework their experiences, sharpen their wits to invent a new game, stimulate creativity, feel good about themselves even if they don’t have no way.
GET MOMENTS TO REALLY BE TOGETHER. There is nothing that annoys a child more than the parent’s feigned interest when talking or playing with him. At least now that we are on vacation, every now and then let’s dedicate some time to be alone with him, without looking at the tablet, talking to his friend and without showing haste or impatience. The child notices if we are talking to him but think of something else, if we answer him but don’t listen to him, if we play but don’t really participate in the game. It is very important for the construction of self-esteem to feel interesting in the eyes of the parent, to perceive that if he plays with him it is because he enjoys it, not because he is making a concession. There is no need to keep up with him all day, even a little time is enough, but of quality, after which he will dedicate himself to something else, happy and satisfied.
ON RETURN FROM HOLIDAYS, RESUME NORMAL RHYTHMS WITH GRADUALITY. On vacation, sleep and meal times skip, but when the return to school approaches, you have to give them a period of adjustment to resume the “old habits”: every day you go to bed a little earlier and wake up earlier , they begin to make meals at the canonical times, check their homework, leaf through new books together, choose the case and the diary. In short, the child gradually accompanies the return to normal.