There are those who say that Italy is a republic founded on grandparents, and with great probability it affirms a great truth.
In a zero-growth country like ours, where becoming parents is an arduous and courageous undertaking, where for a woman the two lines of the positive pregnancy test not only mark the beginning of a new life, but often the end of a satisfying working life, having grandparents close to you is a precious resource to say the least.
Precious because the grandparents present will be indelible memories in the memory of our children, precious because the most loving of babysitters will hardly have the emotional involvement of a grandfather, precious because they represent an important link between generations, precious even when they say a few words too many, because it is almost certainly said for a good purpose.
Precious because at the first ultrasound they often struggle to hide, together with the regret of the passing of time, tears of emotion
Precious when they have the extraordinary tact of seeing ourselves dreaming and doing nothing to spoil our dreams, knowing full well that reality will not always be as we had imagined it.
Precious when after childbirth they know that making room for a new life is a passage that for a couple often involves pain, and they bring us back to a new dimension with balance and experience.
Those who no longer have them, or do not have the immense privilege of sharing the growth of children with them, knows that they are not figures to be taken for granted.
Yet, it is enough to look at many groups of parents on the Web, to realize that perhaps too often their contribution is not perceived as a satisfying sharing, but as a fact and worse still as a duty, when a duty is not.
Very often we take too much for granted of what we receive, and their help does not become a support to our daily life, but the last one to our previous life, without realizing that the reorganization of our new family cannot and should not weigh on those who, for better or for worse, have already done their part in raising their children and have every right to manage their daily lives as they believe: in short, having grandparents available does not mean remaining children forever.
It means sharing new joys and responsibilities, grateful for the help given to us but bearing in mind that we remain the protagonists because this is how it should be.
And therefore, happy birthday to all grandparents!
Greetings to those who are there every day, to those who would make false papers to be there and are far away, and to those who are no longer there. And all the times they make us nervous, because they make us feel judged, because they have a little bit of their own mind, or because of that snack that ruined the dinner. . And we will probably smile at so many discussions, remembering those happy days with nostalgia.
Happy grandparents’ day!