The end of the year is a period of festivities and a lot of animation, where people evaluate achievements, goals achieved and prepare themselves for the challenges that will come the following year. However, many see the period as the closing of a cycle, focus on the losses and what happened of negative, starting a period of sadness in their lives.
According to Sandra Mousinho, professor of Psychology at the Centro Universitário de João Pessoa (Unipê), “people focus on what they have stopped doing and this can cause great frustration, mainly because the tendency is always to compare their achievements with the retrospective of colleagues, which is mostly unreal”.
In order not to let this sadness take over during the end-of-year celebrations, Professor Sandra gives some tips:
- Get busy. Take advantage of your free time between year end obligations to do what you really like. Read a book, watch a series, go out with friends or start a new hobby. “The more unoccupied your mind gets, the greater the tendency to think about problems and negative events. So it’s very important to keep busy,” says the teacher;
- Avoid family confrontation. Maintaining peace at family gatherings can be an arduous task, especially if the views and opinions of members are very different. However, if you know that conflicts will eventually arise, be prepared to respond to provocations in a neutral manner. Suggest that you discuss the issue at another time and change the subject;
- Make a list. Write down all the good things that have happened in your life this year, dreams you have realized, trips you have taken, people you have met. Also take the opportunity to put on paper your expectations for next year and think of it as a fresh start, as a new chance to conquer all that was not possible until then;
- Share your feelings. Friends and family must be present in your life even in the most difficult moments. If something bothers you or if you are suffering for some reason, talk to people close to you. “Emotional issues need to be accompanied and shared. Some internal conflicts and pain are difficult to resolve alone. The support of family and friends is essential,” explains Sandra;
- Focus on what really matters. Tidying up the house to welcome family at Christmas or friends at New Year’s is very good and giving your loved ones presents, even better. However, it is important to remember that the date is a time to be close to who you like and it is the family companies and traditions that really matter and not a big Christmas table, flawless decoration or expensive gifts.
Sadness is very common at the end of the year for the reasons given above, but it is a feeling that goes away after a few days or even weeks. If it persists and is accompanied by a lack of willingness to perform daily tasks, insomnia and tiredness, among other symptoms that can characterize depression, seek medical help to begin appropriate treatment.