Hey, families, what’s up?!
When we pick up our kids at school, we’re anxious to know how they are, what they’ve done, what they’ve learned, whether they’ve played or scolded the teacher, however, the most likely and short answer we have is “it was good” / and or “it was cool.
There are children who like to talk, there is no need for questions about the details of everyday life, they are able to say what happened to them, their friend and even about the class next door.
Around here, Luiz Miguel fits perfectly into the category of children who tell little or nothing about school. Every day we ask and always the answer is the same, “cool”!
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Talking to other mothers, I realized it wasn’t just me that happened. And I always listen, it’s a phase, it’ll pass. A phase? Yes it can be, but thinking with my buttons I decided to do it differently, the questions were not being asked correctly, so I tried another tactic!
That’s when I started asking questions like these:
1. What made you smile today?
2. Were you good with anyone today? Or did you see someone being good with someone else?
3. Did you see someone doing something that wasn’t cool with someone else?
4. Did all the little friends have someone to play with at playtime?
5. Somebody did something funny at school that made you laugh?
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6. Anyone cry at school today?
7. Did you do anything creative today?
8. What’s the one thing everybody’s loving about playing in the playground?
9. What was the best thing that happened on your day?
10. Did you help anyone today?
11. Somebody help you? Did you say thank you?
12. Who did you sit with at snack time?
13. Was there something at school you didn’t understand very well?
14. Who inspired you today? Did somebody do something that caused you admiration?
15. What do you think you should do / learn more at school?
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This experience has been very valuable, the dialogue has improved a lot making the conversation longer, and not just receiving a word as an answer. The questions with the best results are numbers 1, 8 and 12.
After this initiative, there are days that it is not even necessary to ask the questions that he has already told something, and this makes me well accomplished, because I see the change happening.
Leandro also helps me a lot in this part, because the way he talks, joking, makes him let go and talk more.
These are ideas to train your children to listen and practice a much more affective and interesting communication
And there in your house, as it happens, which category do you fit, those who speak or those who do not? Leave your comment sharing your experience, or even suggestions of topic.
I hope you enjoyed it!