Actress Roberta Rodrigues is proof of how painful separation between mother and baby can be. After the birth of her daughter, Linda Flor, in February, the actress is back to work since August for the recordings of her participation in “Tô de Graça”, the new series of the Multishow channel.
“The first day, my heart hurt so much when I gave the Flower to my husband (Guilherme Guimarães). I sat on the stairs and cried for over an hour. But the energy is so good, I’m better. Every day when I arrive I already want to hug this girl”, he jokes.
Back to work and baby separation
Actress Roberta Rodrigues’ statement to the People’s Grain Blog made us go deeper and bring even more information about the difficulty of the separation between mother and baby on the way back to work. After at least four months at home devoting herself to the youngest and most beloved member of the family, we must cut the second umbilical cord to return to work after maternity leave. Although the process is complicated and painful, especially for Mum, a specialist warns that it is possible for this separation to happen without trauma.
According to child and adult psychologist Priscila de Souza Stel, the ideal would be for the separation for the return to work to happen when the two are ready, taking into account that babies need this relationship very much, especially until the first year of life, being essential for development.
As it is not always possible to follow this ideal scenario, the psychologist stresses that preparation is necessary so that the moment back to work is not an abrupt separation. “If it is sudden, the psychological effects are greater. The baby may present changes in his behavior, such as irritation or crying, or even physical symptoms due to the emotional, such as fever,” explains Priscila.
How to make the change less traumatic?
To make this change in routine between mother and baby less traumatic, the mother needs to convey safety and confidence to the little one when she gets back to work. “It’s possible to gradually prepare for this distance by doing other activities without the baby’s company, such as going to the supermarket or getting physical exercise,” she says.
Family members also play a key role in this moment of transition. Although no presence can replace the importance of the mother in the baby’s daily life, she needs to have someone around who she can trust. “The family can help by welcoming the mother’s feelings. A family member with whom she has the freedom to express her anguish, guilt, fear and concern is already very comforting at this decisive moment,” the psychologist stresses.
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