When you already have a child and discover that you are pregnant, you know very well what this represents in your life, but what most mothers don’t realize is really what a brother will represent for the life of the firstborn of the family.
Perhaps when you were little, you experienced a similar situation, but you certainly will not remember. I don’t remember, because I’m the second.
The children must be prepared for everything. I believe that dialogue can be done, besides solving many difficult or complicated situations in life. Nothing like a good conversation to explain to the firstborn that the family will have a new member.
How to prepare your child for the arrival of a little brother
- Welcome and inform the child that he will soon have a little brother
The tone, as well as how you do it, will depend very much on your child’s age. If he’s too young, it’s best to tell him that his tummy will grow because a little brother is growing up. Older children, already able to understand many things, it is better to involve them and convince them of the many advantages of having a sibling.
- Encourage the child to collaborate
Ask him to sing or talk to his brother who is still inside your tummy so that the baby knows your voice and your taste. Also, make him a participant in the growth of the fetus. Show him the picture (ultrasound) of his little brother, ask for his help to choose the baby’s name, buy his clothes or decorate his room. It is also advisable to guide your child to buy a gift for his younger brother.
- Jealousy is inevitable
It can be relieved by conveying even more affection and security to the firstborn. He seeks his life to follow the same as always. Keep the habit of accompanying him to the park, telling him stories and, for no reason, recriminating him when he has an “attack” of jealousy. Don’t forget that the arrival of a brother is a difficult change for him and that the baby you expect will come to add and not to subtract.
Luiz Miguel was the first born, and with Laura’s coming, even being desired, he was jealous and still is sometimes, even not being demonstrated, but in small attitudes we see that he is present. However, he is a very affectionate boy and he knows how to deal very well with the situation.
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Hugs, Mayara Figueredo!