More and more, younger children and even babies who frantically need the screen of a tablet or cell phone to be a “soothing”.
We have heard that the new generation is born with this incredible ‘ability’ to learn how to deal quickly with new technologies. The problem is that they exert an almost hypnotic power. Their attractiveness leads to growing dependency. Until dependence becomes dependence . Today the Child Psychologist Gabriela Matienzo explains how to help a child with cell phone and tablet addiction.
It is true that at certain times it can be very useful to give children a mobile device to entertain themselves in a waiting room, in an adult meeting or just while the mother prepares food … the problem is that from then on it becomes an almost permanent necessity for them to be happy, there is only one step .
Every time they start asking more and more and if they are not delivered, they get upset, being unable to enjoy anything else.
There are parents who cannot detect these situations in time, because unfortunately they are immersed in their own addiction to screens and because it is a way to keep their children happy and entertained.
Here are some behaviors that inform us that it is time to stop the situation:
- They get angry when they don’t have a mobile device and they magically calm down when they get to their hands.
- Some daily activities are changed like time to eat or go to bed because of the need to play with them.
- They look for any time to pick up the device without being seen and they can lie if they ask if they used it.
- They don’t like activities they used to like anymore of painting, handicraft, outdoor games, etc; and all the time they want to play with their mobile phone or tablet.
- They’re no longer interested in playing or hanging out with other kids when they can, asking to play with the screen.
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Tips to help children with tablet or cell phone addiction
How can we prevent this situation from growing into a real nightmare? Here are some tips to try to solve this excessive dependency on children’s tablet, cell phone or video game:
NWe can’t expect our children to disengage from mobile devices if we can’t; so this is a great opportunity for you too, to enjoy the moments at your side much more and take away the creativity you have inside. Remember that they sare just children for a short time …enjoy them.
It’s important that he knows how things will be from now on, it’s not necessary to use phrases like “Never again” or “It’s over forever” … You can calmly explain that you will no longer play with the tablet or that you will no longer be able to use Mom and Dad’s cell phone so often. You don’t have to give long explanations about why you’re making the decision; very young children won’t understand it yet, no matter how convincing you are. Instead, you can tell him that you decided what’s best for him, because there are more fun things he can play with.
Usually small children play with the appliances more when they are at home, so you can look for a weekend when they have fun in the open air activities and a lot of encouragement for them to know the new rules.
Put at your disposal new materials that can be fun
Help him choose alternatives: posters, paintings, clay, blocks to assemble and fun things that can be entertained when he used to play with devices. If, for example, he was very used to watching the tablet during the meal, invent games with palms, songs or riddles that help him not to think about the device. You can also read and act out stories, which you will certainly enjoy and lay the foundations for developing a future taste for reading.
Remove the temptation backwards
Obviously, if the child has the tablet or mobile phone at hand, it will be easier to feel the desire to play with it, so try to keep them out of sight for a while.
Do not scold or poona if you are irritated by the lack of a device
There will be times when the child will be frustrated and angry at not getting what he wants, give him time, tell him that you understand and that you are open to helping him find new alternatives.
If you set clear limits, you will stand firm and help you get through the first few days that will be difficult, at no time, or think about it.
All children can be very happy and enjoy their days without having a mobile device in their hands that will be there for a long time …
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