After all, who has never had to deal with a child’s tantrum at some point ?! It is inevitable, who never passed, will pass. That endless cry and scandal is expected in children between 1 and 3 years old. It is not easy, but we have separated some tips to help you prepare in this phase and know how to act during tantrums. Check out!
After all: why do children tantrum?
According to experts, the explanation lies in the child’s neurological and emotional immaturity. That is, she still does not understand and does not know how to deal with emotions and feelings.
A behavior that the child intentionally repeats in order to communicate and achieve things. Usually, because he does not completely master verbal language, and finds tantrum, a way to express his frustrations. It is part of evolutionary development!
That is, what we call a child’s tantrum is simply the moment when he stops accepting almost everything passively and learns to position himself in the face of his parents’ denials. It is an instinctive behavior, after all, babies learn that when they cry, someone appears to solve the problem, bringing a good solution to what they are feeling.
Why do they repeat this behavior?
Because it works! Unfortunately it is the reality. It is extremely tiring, often lacking patience, shame and the quickest and easiest solution to end the “show” is to give in. In this repetition, the child’s brain associates that every time he throws himself on the floor, he screams, makes a fuss, he gets what he wants.
So, we have put together some tips to help you deal with and understand this moment:
What to do and how to act in a tantrum case?
The first step is to show your child that you are not enjoying the behavior and so you will not pay attention while he is having a tantrum. Explain that you understand and respect his feelings, but you will only continue the conversation when he calms down.
The next moment is crucial, Mom: don’t pay attention, don’t look, don’t scold. Even scolding serves as a “fuel” for the child to understand that even if he does something wrong, he gets what he wants, which is attention.
This is the most difficult, exhausting and complicated moment, after all, a child’s tantrum can take time to pass. You need to impose your presence with welcome, but without losing authority. Try to keep control of the situation, calmly and mainly, don’t give in!
When the tantrum is over, explain that you understand that she was upset, but that now she needs to do what you said at the beginning.
If the tantrum is not worked on in childhood, the adolescent or adult will repeat the behavior, not throwing themselves on the floor – but being an intolerant person who does not know how to listen. As difficult as it may be, it is necessary to be firm. Another chapter in the series: Maternity and Paternity, right ?!
Can you prevent child tantrums?
YES! Some simple actions can help and prevent a crisis.
– Establish a routine and let the child participate and understand the sequence of things he will experience. Example: school, bath, lunch .. At that moment, visual aids are great allies. Give the child the opportunity to choose and make some decisions such as clothes, play, snacks, whether to brush their teeth before or after bathing …
But remember: limit your options to what appeals to you!
-If the child is playing or entertained with something that he likes to do a lot and the time is coming to fulfill some “boring” task of the day to day, a tip is to decrease the intensity of the activity and signal that it is time for the bath , for example.
Because usually the child is doing something that he considers very cool and you interrupt him to do something “boring”. In this contrast, a tantrum can happen! To try to avoid, if she is playing, keep the toys. If you are watching tv, lower the screen brightness. You can even put a stopwatch and warn: x minutes left to brush your teeth and sleep, anytime it beeps, we go.
Child tantrum in public places: how to deal ?!
This is the biggest challenge, because someone always shows up to guess and look ugly. The procedure is the same as explained above. At this point, it is often easier to give in to shame in the scandal or to avoid judgments of others. But unfortunately, giving in is never the best way out. Focus, strength and calm at that moment are paramount.
Did you like our tips for dealing with child tantrums? Leave it in the comments if you managed to put it into practice!
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