When a baby is born, a mother, a father and four grandparents are born with a heart full of what we call “love with sugar”! We don’t know anything about this kind of love until we experience the feeling of hugging a grandchild. They say they love our children twice and it would be almost frivolous of us to doubt. Remember how you came to understand your parents’ love when you became a parent? Understanding the feeling of grandparents for grandchildren should be like that, it only makes sense when it happens to us.
In this Grandparents Day, there is a lot of nostalgia, memories, ear tugs and cafunés. When the children are no longer children, and their problems are so similar to yours, the grandchildren arrive to fill the room with sun, screams and toys! A happy, simple and powerful love, capable of curing back pain for hours and awakening bouts of laughter and good humor even in the most grumpy faces.
A baby is a ray of light in the life of its mother, father, mother-in-law or father-in-law. It is up to the children, daughters-in-law and sons-in-law to let them love each other and enjoy this very important learning, recognizing each other’s place and respecting their time, difficulties and opinions. A conviviality that nurtures virtues such as tolerance and patience. It will not always be easy for all parties, but remember: we are talking about a sweet, almost uncontrollable love, and cavities are a risk worth taking. Just as there is no manual for motherhood or paternity, there is no foolproof recipe for being the best grandfather or grandmother. We become better mothers, fathers and children every day, throughout life. So experience makes them the best grandparents they can be.
They are the basis of our patchwork, where some of our fads come from, the tone of our voice, the way we put on our shoes. Grandpa and Grandma are the most reliable sources in our history. Modern, conservative, funny, careful… I don’t want you to think about stereotypes! The idea is to think about your parents’ parents, your children’s grandparents.
Some say that today’s grandparents are different: More active, connected and perhaps less dependent on families. It is clear that the quality of life of the elderly has a lot to do with it, but the truth is that they are always trying to be better for their grandchildren. After all, if you need to learn how to use chat apps to talk to them, they are willing! If it is necessary to know the world and be healthier to set an example, then they find a way.
Some grandmothers have the smell of lavender, rain cake and cut fruit without seed. Others taste like cake dough, chopped steak on the plate and food without onions. Of course, your grandmother is totally different from mine! And if you stop now to think, you will find in your memories a smell, a taste and a phrase that she always says. The way grandparents walk beside us is different, how they comb our hair and hold our hands. It is not like being with our parents, uncles or friends.
The most passionate grandmothers are those who had no idea of the strength of that love and, at times, did not claim to be prepared, ready and trained. The grace of life is to take us by surprise! A father who is not always present can be a wonderful grandfather, but you have to allow it. Then, in the beauty of a new love, we can also rescue relationships and plant new beginnings. It is nothing new for anyone: all families have some problems. The birth of grandchildren is a beautiful opportunity to learn to love.
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