Hello, families all right!
Today we live in a moment of transition as far as education is concerned. We are changing from an authoritarian style centered on adult reason to a more democratic and child-centered educational style, where your needs, freedoms and motivations are taken into account.
Educating is one of the most difficult tasks we can face. If we add to this debate between lifelong education and support based on the child’s development, we will find many parents who feel lost.
When children are born, they have no instruction book explaining how we should proceed, so the only thing we have to do is to educate our children in the best way, and for that, there are no magic formulas, since every child is a world, but there are some key points we can manipulate. Check them out:
1. Be an example
Children and young people tend to imitate all behaviors, good and bad, of adults. Observing the actions of parents and adults in their environment is how they learn behaviors and ethical values. To be an example of children, we parents should be aware that we are honest and able to do the same as our children ask. They should be taught aspects of everyday customs such as respect for the rules, making the little ones acquire the right habits.
2. Help them manage their feelings
We parents think that only we adults feel disturbed and that children live happily all day long. But they also have concerns. The emotional world of children is the same or more complex than that of adults. Therefore, it is important to teach that all feelings should be considered and can be valid, but that the reaction they provoke is not always appropriate. That is, teach your children to put their name and surname on what they feel.
3. Have dialogue
Communication should be the basis of education. Words, gestures, looks and expressions serve to express feelings and establish a relationship of attachment with children. It is important to take an interest in their things and talk about what they consider important. Tell stories, talk about things like: what you learned at school, what you did during the day, if you helped someone.
4. Be affectionate
Children learn to be kind and gentle to others when they are treated that way. When they feel loved, they are more receptive when it comes to learning values and teachings. This requires that children’s physical and emotional needs be met by providing them with a stable and safe family environment.
5. Set limits without threats
Establish clear rules and limits for children that are consistent and accompanied by logical explanations. Explain to children that these standards are based on concern for their well-being.
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6. Teach them to respect
Children should know that their actions have an impact on others and should also recognise the vulnerability of others. In other words, they should know how to decipher the feelings of those who have problems: other children who feel alone, other children who are suffering abuse. And try to empathize and help rather than disqualify. Therefore, the right should be above the individual wishes of each person. We need to teach them to seek happiness through kindness and feel good by making other people happy
7. Do not compare
When it comes to education, it is important to eliminate all kinds of comparisons and generalizations. Phrases like: “If you were like your brother…”, “you always do what you want…” They don’t do well.
8. No to overprotection
The best way for children to explore the world is to allow them to experience things even if they are wrong. If they are wrong, we must take care physically and emotionally.
I hope you enjoyed it. If you have any questions or suggestions, leave your comment. Or if you want to share your experience with me!
Hugs, Mayara Figueredo!