There is no such thing as a perfect mother! We bet that if you are pregnant or have just had your first child, not fulfilling this role is one of your main fears. But you have to face motherhood more lightly. With this in mind, we have selected the top 10 mistakes that first-time mothers make, even if it’s thinking of the best for their children.
Discover the main mistakes of first-time mothers
1 – Wanting to be the “perfect mother”
It is natural for first-time mothers to idealize motherhood fully and without error. After childbirth, the senses become more acute, sleep more lightly and the woman develops greater resistance to fatigue. But you can’t do it all by yourself, in a perfect way.
2 – Do not leave home
In the first months of the baby’s life, many mothers isolate themselves at home. But there is no reason to avoid going out with the baby after the first vaccinations and release by the pediatrician. It is important to keep a routine of short walks and meetings with friends and family, even for the baby to develop immunity.
3 – Dedicate yourself fully to the baby
We know that being a mother is a full-time job, but we must also preserve the woman you are! The baby needs a mother who is well and healthy, so don’t neglect her well-being. Leave the baby in the care of the father and grandparents to devote himself to you, whether it’s a longer bath or a quick visit to the hairdresser. Happy Mummy, healthy baby!
4 – Excluding the father from care
That’s a classic mistake among first-time mothers. Although the bond between mother and baby is unique and quite strong, the father also has an important role. He must create his own relationship with his child, including doing things his own way (control the sudden desire to “show” how everything is done).
5 – Be inflexible
Imposing a routine for the baby is even healthy, but don’t overdo it! There’s no need to stress if something goes off schedule, if your baby doesn’t take a nap on time or if a visit comes at the last minute. Let the routine be lighter. Keep breastfeeding on demand, with no fixed schedule. Also, a newborn baby is naturally unpredictable.
6 – Compare the baby with other children
“My son sleeps all night.” “Mine didn’t get a pacifier.” “How many pounds has your son gained this month?” Mothers love to make comparisons, but you have to keep in mind that each child is unique and has his own developmental pace.
7 – Not feeding properly
Mother’s routine is already tiring. With a newborn, it gets a lot worse. But regardless of the baby’s age, the mother’s diet must be rich in nutrients. Eating “when you give” is a common mistake. But it is necessary to prioritize a rich and diversified diet and to drink plenty of water, even so as not to harm breastfeeding.
8 – Overwrap the baby
Is your baby born in the summer and walking around in his pants and coats? But, relax! Newborns are really more sensitive, but they have the same thermal feeling we do. Believe me: if you’re hot, so is he! Protect your baby from thermal shock, like getting in and out of air-conditioned rooms. A golden tip is to dress your baby in layers and only one more piece than you.
9 – Overdoing shopping
Buying the trousseau is a delight! We know that, don’t we? But you can’t overdo it and buy everything you see ahead. Buy the essentials to assemble the baby’s room and the basic pieces of the trousseau and leave it to evaluate, after the birth, if you will need anything else.
10 – Do not listen to more experienced mothers
You can be a super-tuned future mom in all matters about baby care, but that doesn’t mean you have to ignore other moms’ advice, especially the more experienced ones. Those valuable tips from Grandma and concerned aunts won’t hurt. Listen, be gentle and follow your intuition!
What about you, moms? Which of these mistakes have you made? Share your experiences with us!
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