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How tender our children are: frugolettos perfumed with delicate shower gel and hypoallergenic detergent, with smooth smooth skin, chubby hands that slip everywhere and fluffy mouths that give basins. Then one morning they wake up and have the same mood as the Grinch.
Food sucks, clothes suck, your advice sucks, everything sucks. And we there to ask ourselves what happened to the little frugoletti scented with shower gel and hypoallergenic detergent.
Seriously, and pardon the pun, preteen is no joke and it’s very important to understand that there is a reason why at some point our children transform like Jekyll into Hyde.
And that reason is not that they hate us, it is not that we have failed in their education, it is not that we have to lock them up or that they have gone mad: they are simply starting to grow and this involves the implementation of a whole series of physical changes, but also psychological, which destabilize any balance, theirs and ours.
The good news is that there is something we can do to get there prepared: just have a little patience and good reading on the subject.
And if you don’t know them, don’t worry, we’ll let you know. Here are our favorite books, with Amazon affiliate links.
4 beautiful books on pre-adolescence
Take a pen and paper and write these down 4 beautiful book titles that prepare for the preadolescence of their children.
The age of the Tsunami, how to survive a pre-adolescent child
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This book is by Alberto Pellai and Barbara Tamborini for De Agostini publisher.
Tamborini and Pellai are developmental psychology experts and, if that were not enough to already make them authorities in this field, they are parents. We can say that they know.
This book works on two fronts.
On one side helps to understand the physiological transformations of a growing brain, so we could say that it arises just like a text of scientific publication.
On the other, builds a dialogue with the parent aimed at allowing him to self-examine, establishing to what kind of educational model one belongs and to which type, instead, one aspires to belong.
With advice on films to watch with your children, self-assessment tests and a good “code” of typical situations in the parent-child dynamic, the book is a valuable aid both in terms of preparation for pre-adolescence and as crisis survival manual already in place.
You can buy it on Amazon at the price of € 14.15.
The Mutants, how a preteen child changes
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Book by Sofia Bignamini for Solferino
Sofia Bignamini is one psychotherapist and teacher at the school of specialization and psychotherapy of adolescents and young adults Minotaur, and has published this essay on the nature and course of pre-adolescence, a must in my opinion for all parents who intend to survive the growth of a child.
What makes it worthy of reporting, compared to similar volumes, is the fact that it is structured in consideration of the multiform manifestation of the typical characters of this age according to the character of each one.
Not a simple text that contains certain inconveniences in the generic label of “pre-adolescence”, but a tool that allows you to identify and enhance the physiological characteristics of each person based on their very personal way of reacting to the stimuli of growth. Operation that is decisive, beyond mere theoretical knowledge, for calibrate ourselves on the child we actually have and not on a generically perfect individual who often takes shape in our mind. Above all to finally be able to establish a dialogue useful for overcoming conflicts in progress.
You can buy it on Amazon at the price of 15.20 euros.
Montessori from 9 to 12 years, practical guide for parents with ideas and activities to do at home
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Written by Nathalie Petit for Terra Nuova Edizioni.
Nathalie Petit, a great connoisseur of the method, in this book tackles the problem by putting it into practice all the basic principles of the Montessori discipline, starting from the very delicate moment in which the child prepares to leave childhood by questioning the parental figure in order to find autonomy, with fluctuating results between the oppositional and the infantile.
A very valuable help, even in this case, for the moments in which each parent tends to feel disoriented. Everything, of course, as long as the educational method already in use is the Montessori one.
You buy it on Amazon at the price of 11.40 euros.
What will I do when i grow up? The future as our children see it
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Book by Gustavo Pietropolli Charmet for Editori Laterza.
I particularly like this essay because it tackles the question exclusively from the point of view of children and by placing us parents in front of an extremely important fact: kids fear the future and uncertainty just as any adult suddenly finds himself facing an event that upsets his life.
The pre-adolescent distress, in this case, it assumes the connotations of consequence of a concrete fear, real, due to the emptiness that our children find themselves in the moment in which they begin to move away from our reassuring shadow, with all the doubts due to not knowing if they will have the ability to build their own identity as autonomous and adult people.
Because it is only this security that makes young people confident and sure of the path they will have to face in growth and will allow them to put aside the fear of the unknown to build and build themselves in the future.
An extremely inspiring and highly recommended book.
You can buy it on Amazon at the price of 9.02 euros.
Stay tuned, more great books on the way soon how to face the next phase: the dreaded adolescence!