Have you ever stopped to wonder why babies are strange to some people? Usually, this behavior begins in the sixth month of life and can last until the eighth with unknown and even close people, like grandparents and uncles.
Even though some parents are embarrassed, this attitude is very common and is part of the development of the emotional side of the children, who realize that they are no longer an extension of their mother’s body.
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When babies strangle people, it means they’re going through the anguish of separation.
Although the name is frightening, it is a positive sign that indicates a healthy maturation of the little one. This refusal to contact is the height of a process of self-knowledge and indicates that he is growing and developing as expected!
How does the separation anxiety phase work?
In the first few months of life, babies are still confused with their mommy. Since they are not self-conscious, they do not discriminate against people and thus relate to everyone. They are cute, friendly, smile and go in all directions.
But as they grow older, they begin to realize that they are another person, separated from their mother. At the same time, they already identify the next of kin and surprise the strangers.
Rejection can also be related to some moment of trauma the baby had, such as a fright with a man’s thick voice.
Why do some babies weird people out and cry so much?
In fact, what changes between one baby and another is the personality. All of them are often strange strangers, but some are more expressive when crying louder, while the more discreet ones only show a certain tension.
At this stage, the little ones tend to get more irritated, sly and asking for much more attention from their mother. Changes in sleep, loss of appetite and agitation can also happen.
What to do when the baby only wants the mother
To keep the child calmer and more sociable during this period, we have separated some tips that can help in this mission:
- Establish a routine: that’s the main tip! The routine is very important for the little one to feel safe. Therefore, it is not appropriate to make radical changes in the day-to-day and the circle of relationships;
- Exercise patience: Only those who have children at home know that it is necessary to be calm, remembering that this phase, like the others, will pass;
- Pay attention to the child: this is a time of more lap and care! Since she is in crisis because she is afraid of losing her mother, it is natural that she becomes needy;
- Get the baby used to other people: take the kids to the parks, shopping and restaurants. This facilitates gradual adaptation with unknown people;
- All in baby time: don’t force him into the lap of strange people. A good option is to promote the approach by playing together;
- Don’t sneak out: even if he cries, says goodbye and talks to the little one;
- Play hide-and-seek: the famous “where? found” joke might help in that period. That way he’ll learn that Mommy won’t disappear every time she leaves his field of vision.
Importance of transition objects
The function of transition objects is to reassure the child in this time when he or she feels most sad. That’s why babies tend to be close to dolls, nannies, diapers or toys.
These items decrease the anxiety of the little one in moments of separation from his mother. Through them, the baby begins to develop creativity, imagination, cognition and affection. This bond is healthy and, little by little, the little ones lose their attachment to the object.
As time goes by, the anguish phase of separation passes and the child becomes more comfortable in the presence of strangers and cries less and less.
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