Often the child talks to his body. What are the psychosomatic phenomena to pay particular attention to and how to manage a parent’s anxiety?
This podcast is answered by Dr. Pamela Pace, psychoanalyst psychotherapist and president of the Pollicino association and the Onlus Parent Crisis Center.
“The child is a psychosomatic unit, especially before the advent of the ability to speak.
The body of a child is from the beginning the object of care and the privileged place to which they are directed and in which love, relationship, satisfaction and frustration are gradually woven. It is right in the body and through the body that every human being from birth experiences the pleasure of the affective dimension, but also of the first forms of satisfaction of the drive and also of the search for a pleasure. Let’s think of the little ones who suck our finger, who meet the foot … Here is the importance that children, even very young ones, can experience by the reference adult, a regulation of his satisfaction, because it is necessary to create a link between satisfaction and regulation of the more of the pursuit of this satisfaction.
We know it is right through the body that the child enters into relationship with the other and discovers the world. When he begins to crawl, touch and even put objects from the outside world in his mouth. These first approaches of the child can make a parent anxious and the anxiety of father and mother does not necessarily need to be demonized because in reality it can be an extra eye that pays attention to the dangers of a very young child. It is clear that when anxiety and apprehension invade the parental place, this can affect the quality with which mom and dad then intervene on the child’s curiosity and discovery of the world around him “explains the expert.
The child speaks with the body and sometimes, even if still small, his body can convey messages. Real gods “psychosomatic symptoms which can be multiple. It is good to first talk about it with the pediatrician: these symptoms sometimes serve the child to be recognized with respect not only to his needs, but also to his difficulties and hardships “.