Advice to the new mother on what to do if she starts waking up again at night, on separation anxiety, on medicines, on the types of toys, on the flu and cough and on what can happen in the 8th month of life and how to fix it , the baby’s first small goals
The eighth month of life can be more critical than the previous one because it is right now that the baby usually manifests the symptoms of separation anxiety, a feeling very close to the anguish that appears when the mother moves away and is fed by a vague but painful fear of losing it and never finding it again. In conjunction with separation anxiety, another new feeling emerges: the fear of strangers that the child expresses in a particularly eloquent way during any pediatric visits. Up to five six months, in fact, the child tends to let himself be handled by the pediatrician without protesting and, indeed, often gratifies him with smiles and satisfied gurgling. At eight months, however, she may cry desperately as soon as she sees him or immediately after feeling the touch of his hand. (Read the whole agenda of the baby, from 0 to 12 months)
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All about separation anxiety
Separation anxiety arises from the fear of being abandoned by the mother and generally appears around the eighth month of life. In some cases it may appear earlier, in others after. She always expresses herself with restlessness, difficulty falling asleep, frequent nocturnal awakenings, desperate cries when the mother goes away even if only to reach another room. Here’s what else you should know.
- Separation anxiety can have various levels of intensity depending on the temperament of the child and the mother’s ability to reassure him. In this last regard, it is important that the mother on the one hand is very affectionate with the child and devotes herself to him completely whenever possible and on the other hand she shows herself serene in the face of any manifestation of discomfort. That is, the child must not acknowledge that the mother is frightened by her reactions, nor that she feels somehow guilty of what is happening to him, nor that she is irritated or, worse, angry.
The fear of being abandoned is a feeling that usually concerns the mother, but in some cases it can also develop towards the father. The possibility is frequent above all in cases where the father has taken care of the little one every day since the first months of life, also taking care of his hygiene. Exactly as a mother must do, even the father must make the child feel as much love as possible, not only by spending time with him but also by caressing him, kissing him, holding him close. Physical contact is indeed an extraordinary tool of consolation.
- In addition to handing the teddy bear to the child, for its function as a symbol of affection and maternal presence, when the mother moves away from him she can offer him a previously worn t-shirt, in which therefore there is his smell. The trick is particularly comforting and, therefore, reassuring for most children.
If he starts waking up again at night
It is precisely in this month that the baby can start waking up again at night, maybe screaming and crying. The eventuality is relatively common and is a direct consequence of separation anxiety that during the night sleep can become magnified, turning into very intense feelings of restlessness and apprehension. The child should absolutely not be allowed to cry, on the contrary it is necessary to run immediately and make him feel his presence through caresses and affectionate phrases whispered with sweetness. Instead, we should avoid lifting him from the bed, to console him by leaving him lying down. However, if he continues to cry, it is a must to pick him up until he is completely calm. If the only way to reassure him is to welcome him in the Latvian it may be appropriate to opt for this solution, especially if you have to go to work in the morning. Putting him to sleep in the bed at least until the critical period is exceeded is a choice not to make only if you are deeply opposed to this possibility and if you are unable to rest with the baby in bed. On the other hand, it is not worth giving up this option as a matter of principle, since it has never been shown that it is essential for the child’s education to sleep in his own bed. In summary, the absolute priority should be to be able to rest at night, so the possibility of making room for the child in the Latvian is welcome, if this is the only strategy that allows you to do so.
How to administer the medicines
The need to give the child a medicine sooner or later arises. Feeling unsure of what to do or frankly worried is more than understandable until experience is gained. In fact, however, if you have correct information on how to proceed, everything can become very simple.
Medicines in syrup should be given with the spoon present in the package, which should be placed against the lower lip of the mouth, slightly inclined so that the child can suck in the liquid with the movement of the sucking. If you fail with the spoon, you can administer the syrup slowly with the pediatric syringe, without a needle, to be placed in the corner of the mouth. If the operation is still difficult, all that remains is to opt for the teat with reservoir, intended precisely for the administration of liquid medicines. If you need to make the aerosol you have to sit comfortably, pick him up and try to distract him with a fairy tale or a song while holding the mask close to his nose and mouth: this is the only way to make him breathe the nebulised substance. correctly. If you need to put eye drops you have to place the nozzle against the inner corner of the eye, after which you have to try to close the eyelids, and then massage them lightly. Finally, to insert a suppository you have to put the baby on his stomach, then he has to bend his knees to bring them close to the abdomen. After having introduced it, you have to gently approach his buttocks, keeping them close together for about a minute, in order to prevent the suppository from finding its way and being expelled.
Toys, the various types
Toys are the most natural means of transport towards the playful dimension which is the one in which the child trains for life, engaging all his intellectual abilities and measuring himself with his abilities, which are refined precisely through play. Closed in the enchanted space of the game, where everything is possible (let’s pretend we have a horse) where all the represented reality is at hand but, at the same time, where every single object can become something else for the magical exercise of the imagination , the child gains experience, tests himself, seeks and finds solutions, gets excited and defeats boredom. Toys help to make the most of the ideal gym that is play by promoting harmonious psychoemotional development. From the moment he learns to sit and grasp objects, it is therefore advisable to surround him with a reasonable number of toys, taking care to choose those suitable for the age according to what is reported …