Teach children to manage anger? If we do not want angry adults, we must start with educating from an early age to manage disappointments and conflicts
When we talk about emotions, our thinking automatically identifies two types: positive ones on the one hand and negative ones on the other.
Always anger, fear and sadness they have been “victims”, so to speak, of prejudices and valued as strictly negative emotions.
Another feature that catches the eye when dealing with emotions is associate them with colors. I was able to “experience” anger in children by listening to different kinds of music, stories, viewing images and, once again, the children gave a great lesson. Usually we are used to representing anger with the color red, from the various works it turned out, however, that this emotion “takes on the color that we give it”!
Well, great! When it comes to emotions, however, we must pay the utmost attention. From an early age, children express themselves through crying, screaming, laughing, stamping their feet, jumping from happiness, but any kind of reaction, even if it expresses the child’s full freedom, must still be expressed in the right way.
The podcast on how to manage anger
How to manage the emotion of anger in children?
He answers in the podcast under Paola Sperandeo, Clinical Psychologist of GuidaPsicologi.it
Control the anger
Learn to control anger, for example, it is a very important starting point for relating and living our experiences to the fullest. There are many people who snap for nothing, others who can not control themselves convinced that screaming or, worse, getting to the hands is the best solution to be heard.
L’I listen, yes, sometimes it is quite a beautiful mystery!
How many times, taken up by our commitments or our hobbies, do we not pay attention to the signals that our children send? We often realize this when the child or adolescent in question has already exceeded the limit of self-control and we find ourselves in the house who screams and slams doors to be heard. If we then add ours to his screams, we get the opposite effect: there was no dialogue, no confrontation, but before that, and this is where he is wrong, listening was lacking, an important element in a report.
In fact, anger and aggression go hand in hand in some people. We can say that it is precisely the lack of control that leads us to go into a rage.
If we do not want angry adults, we must start with educating from an early age to manage disappointments and conflicts.
Listen to your body
Each emotion is expressed not only through words or gestures, but is also very much communicated internally. Children, especially in preschool age or in the first years of schooling, often express a sense of stomach discomfort when they are agitated and nervous, others communicate that their heart is beating madly, and still others feel pervaded within by a force such that the first aspect that catches the eye can be the face contracted, the eyes closed or the hands clenched in fists.
Teaching to express emotions also through the body by resorting to meditation and relaxation exercises is a valid help to listen to what comes inside and know how to express it in the best possible way to live peacefully with others.
Calming anger could also take place through listening to pleasant music, which relaxes the nerves or on the contrary charges the child in a positive way, making him move and dance, pulling out any tension. For someone, however, it is enough to listen to a story, or to draw. In fact, drawing is an excellent tool for individual release.
Joke about it
Laughter is an excellent ingredient for clearing negative thoughts or heavy and stressful moments from the mind. Laughing at the situation is not making fun of the other, mind you, but realizing how the exaggeration has taken over and the clarity is less. For this reason, a liberating laugh helps to return to reality and lead to a more efficient and constructive dialogue.
Be a positive role model
It has always been said that example is one of the main educational tools, but everything depends on how it is used. The feelings, the actions, the attitudes of the parents are reflected on the children, both positive and negative. Even when we think we are not actually heard or seen, whether it be children or adolescents, we are dealing with individuals who are ready to imitate us.
Using an adequate tone of voice, a relaxed facial expression, a stern look but not “lightning” to cross him … getting angry, in short, yes, it is a right that belongs to everyone and each of us must be able to vent, but we must never forget to be perpetually models for those who watch us.