The idea that the newborn does not understand or “does not notice” because he is small and does not speak is now questioned by many. The fact that the little one does not yet have the ability to express himself verbally it does not mean that he does not understand everything that happens around him.
According to journalist Ana Hanssen, author of an article published on the Spanish site Babycenter.com, using our language to describe situations and feelings it is essential for the emotional well-being of the child.
For example, it is important for new mothers to talk with newborns about the small details and routines of daily life and the overwhelming emotions that sometimes invade them after giving birth: “Yes, my little one, having a wet diaper is uncomfortable, let’s change” . Or “Let’s say hello to dad who’s leaving for work”, “You stay with your grandmother for two hours while I go to the doctor” or “Now let’s go to the market, a place where there are lights and lots of people.”
It is not a great idea to leave the baby with other people and disappear without explaining to make things “easier”. Even something that seems normal to us (like visiting a family member) could be stressful for a child, then the little one must be prepared. Otherwise, this could cause distress.
It also happens to us adults: if our partner has to be home at a certain time to eat, and if, after waiting a long time, he calls us to tell us that he is late because he has argued with the boss, we will surely tell him with a some anger: “You could have warned earlier.” But if that person calls us and tells us in advance that it will be late, we will be more relaxed.
We adults also want to know in advance if anyone comes to our house at a certain time. It also happens to children and it is very nice to be their “storytellers”. It also makes us aware of the present and can be therapeutic.
The journalist said: “Among the best memories of my days as a mother are the moments of solitude with my children. Seen from the outside they might have looked like monologues, but to me they were instead the best dialogue I’ve ever had in my whole life. I just had to look at the faces of my children as they listened to my descriptions while I washed them in the bath, or explained to them why I was happy. “
So don’t miss the chance to talk to your child: it is a way to stimulate him, to show him all your love and empathy, and to prepare him for the outside world.