How to choose and manage the babysitter? Look for it through word of mouth or specialized agencies. Make sure he has good references, speaks well and is trustworthy. Then instruct her clearly on what to do and not to do. Here are Sara Morelli’s advice.
For working mothers, the nanny is a fundamental figure. But this role is often underestimated. Instead, they are people who have a huge responsibility: they raise our children. But how to find the right person? How to choose the right babysitter? We asked Sara Morelli, owner of the Tate & Nanny agency for the search for specialized personnel in the domestic sector.
“The nanny can be reached in two ways: by word of mouth, by asking friends or grandmothers, or through specialized agencies. Both channels are valid. But once you have contacted, you need to set up a cognitive interview and only on the basis of this can you understand if the person indicated is the right one for you “says Morelli.
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1. The business card: the appearance.
Personal hygiene is the first thing to observe as soon as it arises. It must be a person who inspires cleanliness: hair in order and not dirty, clothing comfortable but not sloppy or stained, and with little makeup: too much blush could irritate the delicate skin of the newborn, as well as nails that are too long are not good for playing with. small children …
It is also very important to make sure that she is not a smoker and does not smell of smoke. Then the tone of voice is also to be considered: must be calm and not too bright, with a gentle and not abrupt manner. These are small details that you can notice at the first meeting and that make a difference.
2. Make sure you speak Italian well.
In fact, for a correct development of language, the child needs to be stimulated through a varied and correct vocabulary. So Italian is essential.
Alternatively you can choose a nanny to talk to English, to give the little one a bilingual approach. But avoid the nanny who speaks neither Italian nor English well or any other language that you would like the child to learn.
3. Ask for references.
The nanny, especially if she has to take care of a small child, must be used to this profession. It is not enough that he had children or little brothers, it is not the same thing. Furthermore, it must be fresh from the previous experience because many habits change from year to year: from pediatric directives, to weaning …
So if she has been caring for school-aged children for the past 10 years, she may be unprepared to handle a newborn. The advice is to inform yourself well on its preparation based on the age group that interests you.
4. The right age.
The best age to handle a small child is between 25 and 45 years old. While a more mature figure is fine for the newborn, between 28 and 55 years.
If, on the other hand, you are looking for a babysitter just to put him to bed when you go out in the evening, then a young girl may be fine too. Ideal to find a student who lives in your building and can come to you only when you need it.
How to instruct the babysitter
Once you have chosen the right person for you, you have to move on to clarify your educational needs.
5. Make a list of prohibited things.
For example, explain to her that your child must not watch television, cannot play on the tablet for more than 15 minutes, must not eat candy …
6. Then a list of the things to do.
Make a list of the things the nanny needs to do that are important to you.
7. Determine what to do in case of a tantrum.
In front of the child who refuses to do something, the nanny must be patient and calm and never use her hands. Then you will tell her if she is allowed to make some concessions from time to time or if you prefer a rigid educational style instead. In any case, you must be the one to give her directions on how to behave. Read also: Children’s whims, how to manage them from 0 to 16 years. The secret is empathy
8. He doesn’t have to spend all his time on his cell phone.
An important thing to point out right away is that he doesn’t have to be on his cell phone.
9. Ask her to do some housework.
Without exaggerating, ask her if she can do any housekeeping duties. (Also read 10 PRACTICAL ways to educate children about autonomy)
10. Don’t hide anything from the babysitter.